From the book “The afterlife of Billy Fingers”
I find myself asking, what in the heck is going on with people?; I can give a hundred examples of why I ask, and quite honestly, worry. Recently, I was involved in something on Facebook, that turned out to be nothing but a ploy for attention. The part that really disturbs me is that I really went to bat for this person who says she is pregnant and being harassed, and given this person is a relative, I was very upset!! I intervened and defended said relative, only to later read that the harassment really didn’t bother her because “no one was bringing her down”.
I live in another country, it was expensive for me to call that country 5 times in her defence. Not only was I extremely upset by the language used against this relative, but also suggestions she should have an abortion! That individual is clearly mean, malicious, and thoughtless. However, my relatives’ response was obviously “ha, ha, I got my aunty involved, this sucker will pay now” and once I was involved, I did end the problem, at great expense to me financially and emotionally. In that scenario, I evaluate it as follows; The harasser is void of compassion, plain and simple, the relative is void of integrity, plain and simple, and myself, is void of self-control.
A pet is a commitment and from that day all your decisions are made with
accomodating your pet.
Other instances include animal abuse, it seems to be ramped, like a disease. I am seeing more and more instances of animal abuse than ever! I am talking torturing animals, for pleasure. Then there are people who don’t even consider their pet a part of the family anymore when it becomes an inconvenience or too much work. They want to move or have a baby, perhaps they want to downsize into a beachfront unit, I don’t know and quite honestly, I do NOT care what their pathetic excuses are. These people KNOW they are wrong, and say anything to justify abandonment and have their life with less responsibility! They bring them to the shelter with so many lies it isn’t funny, “suddenly they or their child have an allergy to the 4-year-old cat or dog, or they lie and say it bites (stupid idiots, puts that dog right in the front of the line for euthanasia), they even say it’s a stray..how pathetic is that? The dog looks very well fed, healthy animal; who is clean and groomed, and well fed, that isn’t a stray, it’s either a lost dog or your dog, likely your dog cause you are looking so hard for an excuse to ditch your “beloved pet” that you can’t reason that out!
There ARE genuine reasons for having to part with a pet and there are guidelines that should be followed when doing so. Use a licensed/accredited dog/ cat rescue, or a no-kill shelter but investigate them as many will state they are but then send animals to kill shelters when they become full. Don’t be tempted to pawn the pet off to family or friends, most times if they have not offered they really don’t want a pet, and that isn’t the best solution then either. It is your responsibility to ensure where your pet goes is safe. Giving away a pet to a stranger is dangerous. So many are taken by those involved in dog fighting, cats and dogs are used for bait no matter their size. I don’t want to get into all that, you can easily look that up.
Bullying is bad, says those who bully anyway.
School bullying has been an issue from day one in any school around the world, why is that? It is something learned at home? Is there abuse in the home of the bully? What makes a bully so aggressive, mean, and hateful?? anyone..???? I am pleased to see it IS an issue taken seriously now instead of telling the victim to harden up..ignore the bully and they’ll stop (ya, ok – right………) The good ole online experience. There are so many people who use their time online wisely and actually educate others or help them in some way, then, of course, there are those that use it as an opportunity to bully others.
Who are they?
I don’t see this is an adolescent ONLY issue, I see more adults Do they than I do young adults, honestly. What is now defunct in the lives of people that they must hurt someone else to feel good about themselves? I know, to an extent, this has always been, but before it was face to face, where you could clock a “cow” who assaulted you. In fact, most of the stuff said over a computer, would NEVER be said to someone’s face. So why would anyone feel that it is appropriate? I don’t think they even think about what is appropriate..but one thing I do know if you watch them online, how they talk to others and behave in general, you have seen who they really are. It’s the “real” them. How they are in person, is actually the actor.
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Personal lives, on and offline; some of it is downright disturbing!! Just a few examples, verbal abuse on children..what’s up with that? Are they that weak minded, lacking that much parenting skill or human love and compassion that verbally bashing a baby or child is the solution? I won’t get into the real, physical bashing of child right now, or this blog won’t end. People do the same to animals, what? Do they have no feelings? They don’t know the difference between a happy voice, a very angry voice, and angry behaviour? Yes, they do know and you do not deserve a child or a pet if you do not have self-control! Goodness me, that is common sense! There are classes you can take, books you can read. You can also just look into yourself and find the love and empathy that you were born with and use it.
Treat others as you want to be treated, even if you were a cat or a dog.
BUT..when you bring that pet to a NON KILL shelter, don’t lie, just tell them your an abusive *bag and do not deserve the pet and it surely does not deserve your abuse! I do not address “everyone in the human race” in this blog, but those who can relate to, and identify with what I have said… this blogs for you. It’s time to make a change, its time to make sure you replace hate words with nice words, to lower your voice, to be on your computer and realise that a real person is on the other end with feelings and problems of their own. “Treat others the way YOU want to be treated”. I am not suggesting that you let someone bully you or a relative..not at all, I am suggesting you leave the verbal/written aggression for those that well and truly deserve it. Don’t verbally assault someone because you
Easy to say, can it be done?
Lets all TRY to be more compassionate, to realise that we are all hurting in one way or another, that as a human race, we need to stick together, not divide.
As I write this, I am disgusted, annoyed, and bewildered. I have a good friend, who I’ll call opal, who has a beautiful, 16-year-old daughter, who I’ll call diamond. Diamond is gorgeous. Diamond is sometimes called names in school, such as fat and ugly…I see diamonds recent pictures all the time, she is far from …